Friday, September 7, 2007

All In

I am a peace-lover. In fact, I am a coward. My first instinct in times of conflict or trouble is to hunker down in a corner and hope it goes away. I just want to go back to my nice quiet life, spend time with my family, and type pretty thoughts in my harmless little low-carb blog and newsletter. Oh, how I want that!

Nevertheless, there comes a time when duty trumps fear.

After much thought, I have decided that any potential harm to others allowed by my silence outweighs any potential risk brought about by my speaking.

Therefore, before this day is over, I intend to publish 3 things:

~ Quoted replies in her own words to the issues raised by the various former admins, which others who participated in that email exchange at the time can verify or refute

~ A short version of the whys and wherefores of my personal journey in and out, including financial disclosure and an honest admission of the compromises I feel I made

~ To set the record straight, my personal layman's opinion of the physical and mental health risks of the diets, for what it is worth

Did I leave anything out?


I have been told that an apparently supportive and magnanimous statement has been publicly made about me. I do appreciate that. I also know how that works.

But, this isn't about me - or about you, Kimmer. This is about the hopes and fears and health and lives of people who trusted you and paid you based on your promises to deliver.

I fully expect that I may expect to see a flurry of my own words taken out of context and used against me.
After all, desperate times call for desperate measures.

You mistook decency for weakness.
I will take my hits. Bring it on.

22 comments:

Vickie said...

"You mistook decency for weakness.
I will take my hits. Bring it on."

You GO GIRL!!! I am so proud of you today. Yor statement gave me goosebumps!

Gaynell said...

Becky, you probably don't remember me from Kimkins, but my user name there was Gaynell. I've since been banned, of course, but I just wanted to let you know what a ray of sunshine you were at that site. I knew I could trust you and I knew that you had the best interests of everyone there at heart. And what a big, generous, loving heart it is.

I'm so glad the Lord has led you away from a place of such negativity. You will be blessed for it and you will continue to be a blessing to so many others. Of that, I have no doubt.

Thank you again for letting His light shine through you!

Autumn said...

You go! "Bring it on" indeed. Underestimating you was a very grave mistake.

Julie said...

Becky, I love you!! Seriously. You rock. And don't worry, you have loads of people at your back. :)

Not a Chance! said...

I'm seriously impressed, thank you for speaking up!

~kp said...

Bring it! I am sooo proud--I never doubted this would come. I will find it hard to believe that ANYONE will NOT have your back.

Unknown said...

You have more support than you ever imagined. Kimmer/Heidi Diaz (yes, we all know they are one and the same, even if poor Kimmer has dissociated and lost her way) is beginning to feel the ropes at her back and she's behaving irrationally. It's sad, but again, what needs to be done, needs to be done. You're my new hero, Becky. And you bet, we got your back, honey!!

Daisy said...

Hi Becky: I'm not trying to be mean but -- Why did you find all the problems after you lost all your weight? Isn't it funny how the "goal weight" people want to "save" all the fat chicks like me? You keep mentioning your religion, but you seem to pick and choose which parts to follow. Turn the other cheek? Love your enemy? Why would you align yourself with a group of hateful people who can't wait to rip someone else apart? Remember,you may be judged by the company you keep. You might be better off to just live your own life, and let the rest of us live ours as we see fit. There is only one true savior, and it isn't you.

ChefDeb said...

Becky,

I wanted to stop in an give you my support. I have been lurking in the shadows, watching this whole mess unfold. It's unfortunate for a lot of reasons, but I want you to know that you have handled this with admirable strength and grace and although it doesn't seem like it now, this too will pass.

I'm hoping you remember me from our early days of Camp Kimkins over at LCF. I seem to have lost my 'key' to get into Kimmer's site!

Keep your chin up!

Deb
ChefDeb in Iowa

Arielguard said...

Becky,

I thought you might want to know that Kimmer is putting up this link to the BBB (Better Business...) for Kimkin members to give her site a good rating/review. She put it on the forum with the people supporting her.

http://www.labbb.org/BBBWeb/Forms/Business/CompanyReportPage_Expository.aspx?CompanyID=100055868

chickycola said...

Awesome Post Becky, We are here, and we are strong, and we are behind you! Go get 'em girl!

~kp said...

"My first instinct in times of conflict or trouble is to hunker down in a corner and hope it goes away. I just want to go back to my nice quiet life, spend time with my family, and type pretty thoughts in my harmless little low-carb blog and newsletter. "

I'm sure that's what Kimmer counted on....(((HUGS)))

and HELLO to chefDeb! I remember you too! :-)

Jt said...

I am rooting for you all the way.

Robin said...

Becky, I did not have the pleasure of meeting you on KK but I have read many of your posts and stickies.

Your integrity is incredible and your willingness to face unpleasant situations to help others is awe-inspiring.

Even tho we haven't met . . . I am so glad that our paths have crossed.

Anonymous said...

I am glad you and others are standing up to tell the truth. It needs to be out there for all to see and make their own decision as to what they believe.

Thank you. I have more respect for you than you will ever know. Hang in there. I believe this is the beginning of the end for Kimmer/Heidi.

Losing Jusme said...

you are supported more than you could ever know.

Lee said...

Becky,
I know your heart and I think you know mine. Look at your Avi pic,
you know where I stand, count on it.

Lee

Cutie said...

hey now...there's "my girl"!!!*kiss*

theTRUTH said...

Bravo!
You are awesome. (I knew you had a little "war" in you somewhere...)

;)

Susan said...

Becky, just want to thank you for your bravery in standing up for what you know is right. I have had doubts and concerns about some of Kimmer's advise and ethics for awhile, but hated to leave the site since the diet is working for me and I love the support and so many of the people there. You've helped me to see the need to move on and focus on losing weight in a healthy way. Thank you again!

JOY said...

Becky,
I was unaware of all that was happening as I do not venture much out of my small groups which are so supportive. I do not do fitday, so I was unaware of how extreem people were taking this WOE. As a nurse some of what I see being published worries me so I will be more aware of what is happening. I am sorry that you and the other admins are having to go through this and know you are in my prayers and I believe God will bless you in your new adventures. I know this must have been so difficult and I pray God will give you the strength and endurance required to see this chapter through. He is already blessing your site with some wonderfully strong women.

Susique said...

Hello Dear Becky, remember me? Susan (Susique the gal with the flying chicky avaitar?) I just dropped by Christins blog and wanted to stop by here. Im simply heart broken but at least I know I wasnt going nuts after my hospital admission! And here I was thinking I was WEAK! Now Im starting to think after I told the kimkins folks I was in the hospital with a possible stroke... suddenly I started having trouble logging onto Kimkins?!? I could no longer answer my mail, etc. I even put that fact on the bottom of my Kimkins profile. Well anyway, it enabled me to stop the diet entirely and turn toward Atkins. I miss talking to all of you gals. We really did have quite a community and I shall miss that. Remember the gallbladder stones photo I posted? Yuck : ) Fondly, Susan in Omaha